I consider myself a fairly confident person. To most people I appear that way and that’s who I try to be. I really try to recognize my strengths and weaknesses and be who I am and focus on who I’m supposed to be.
Things tend to go pretty well for the most part. And then there are those times when that unexpected earthquake shows up and I lose my balance and my focus.
The details don’t really matter, but there’s a certain person in my life that has always had a negative opinion of me and has been very vocal about their opinion of me. This person recently gave me a big ugly monologue of what they thought of me. And no matter how confident I am in myself, no matter how many times I say out loud that I don’t care what they think — I still find myself shaken, slightly confused, and losing focus.
I start to question myself. Is what that person said true? Is there even a hint of truth to what that person said? Am I really any or all of those things?
The logical person in me knows that nothing said to me had any truth to it. It was merely a personal attack because of their own frustrations and shortcomings. For every thing that person said to me there are at least two or three people that could give evidence contrary to that person’s statements against me.
Sometimes it’s not a particular person, but it’s “those people” or “they” that creep into your mind.
“They” say that I should be doing XXX as a mom/wife/daughter/sister, but I’m not….
“Those people” are doing XXX for their children, but I’m not…
I’m not doing XXX, so I somehow must be a failure in this area of my life…
The thing is, we are fighting against something bigger than the mom shamers, bullies, negative people, and one-uppers in our lives and we can’t fight this battle alone.
“For we are not fighting against flesh-and-blood enemies, but against evil rulers and authorities of the unseen world, against mighty powers in this dark world, and against evil spirits in the heavenly places.” Ephesians 6:12
I am not merely battling the opinions of this particular person — this person is no bigger, no better, and no more powerful than me. However, the evil mentioned in Ephesians 6:12 — Satan — does have power and he gives the ability to hurt to those who are willing vessels.
It is no coincidence that the names I was called and the accusations that were thrown at me hurt the way that they did. Satan can sniff weakness from a mile away and he is able to calculate the best way to try and hurt us and bring us down. He’s not looking to maim — he’s going for the kill.
It is Satan’s goal in life to tear us down and make us feel less than what we are because when we feel like nothing we do nothing. And as long as we do nothing, we’re not a threat. As long as we think nothing of ourselves, we allows Satan to win.
The thing is though, I can only allow Satan to toss those worthless words around in my head for so long before I get tired of it. I don’t have time to sit around and question who I am.
The truth of the matter is, I know who I am.
I am the daughter of the King.
Romans 8:38-39 says, “And I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from God’s love. Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow—not even the powers of hell can separate us from God’s love. No power in the sky above or in the earth below—indeed, nothing in all creation will ever be able to separate us from the love of God that is revealed in Christ Jesus our Lord.”
The God who created everything loves me. Loves me enough to send His son to die for me, according to John 3:16, and the above scripture says nothing can separate me from His love.
No matter what anyone says about me, no matter what Satan tries to put into my mind, I belong to God because I have accepted His gift of love and everlasting life through Jesus.
Romans 8:31-34 says, “What shall we say about such wonderful things as these? If God is for us, who can ever be against us? Since he did not spare even his own Son but gave him up for us all, won’t he also give us everything else? Who dares accuse us whom God has chosen for his own? No one—for God himself has given us right standing with himself. Who then will condemn us? No one—for Christ Jesus died for us and was raised to life for us, and he is sitting in the place of honor at God’s right hand, pleading for us.”
Because of my faith in Jesus, I am precious in the sight of God. I am loved. I am cherished. Yes, I am still a work in progress. I am not who I was, but I have hope in who God is shaping me to be.
No matter what other people have to say about me, no matter what shortcomings I see when I look in the mirror I have to remember that I was made by a perfect God who is daily molding me to be a better me. Not a better “they” or a better “those people,” but a better me.
Satan can say what he wants, but the thing is, we all know he loses in the end.