When you’re a first time mom it can be overwhelming trying to figure out what you need to do to get prepared. As a first time mom you’re trying to figure out how much everything is going to cost, what you need to buy, breastfeed or formula, daycare or stay home…it can all be super overwhelming.
You would think after that first time that planning for baby gets easier when you’re looking at having baby #2 or baby #3. It doesn’t. The planning gets different.
You’re not really worried about figuring out the cost of things because you know. Typically you’re not concerned over what to buy because you either already have it or you at least know what you need. You’ve already decided with the first one whether you’re breastfeeding or using formula. You may even be 100% on daycare or staying home.
When I had Josiah I was still in college. We knew that Josiah was going to have to go to daycare part-time. He didn’t even go to daycare until he was 6 months old.
I had only been working at my new job at the newspaper for three months when I found out I was pregnant with Samuel. Josiah was in preschool so I initially just assumed that Samuel would go to daycare. When I was nearly seven months pregnant with Samuel I started realizing that there’s no way I could leave my infant at daycare for 8+ hours a day or continue to leave Josiah at preschool for that long. I felt like I was getting no time with Josiah and I wanted the chance to bond with Samuel the way that I had with Josiah.
Then the financial aspect hit. We were struggling to pay the $400 a month for Josiah’s preschool and here we were looking at spending another $420 a month for an infant. At the newspaper since I was a new employee I only made $1,326 bring home pay a month. That means I’d only have $504 a month left over after paying for daycare. I was also going to be required to get health insurance and my work health insurance was going to be $400 a month. What?! I did the math and after working 40-45 hours a week I’d only bring home $106 at the end of the month. It didn’t make sense to me. I could just not work, homeschool like we’d talked about, and stay home with my kids. And that’s what we did.
It was a big change between having baby #1 and baby #2. And now that baby #3 is coming there’s a few different things we have to consider.
I’m not worried about whether I’m breastfeeding or what we’re going to do with Tobias when he gets here. However, I’m really wondering much things are going to change. When Samuel was born Josiah and I did school while Samuel napped. It was peaceful. With a 2 1/2 year old Samuel running around that’s not really the way it’s going to work this time.
Josiah, even at just 4 years old, was super excited about baby Samuel coming. Samuel is still so young that I’m not sure he knows what’s coming. He points at my belly and says “baby”. Josiah is just as excited or more about Tobias coming and I know he’s going to do great and be a huge help. Samuel…not so much. I hope he will be accepting, but I’m pretty sure he’ll be a little jealous.
I’ve already got things planned out where we can finish this school year with Josiah before Tobias is born. I’ve already got next school year’s curriculum planned out so that’s one less thing I have to worry about.
I have to figure out if I’m going to try and wean Samuel from the pacifier before Tobias gets here or if it’ll be a waste of time. He’s also showing interest in potty training and I just really don’t want to start it and not be able to finish.
We’ve already got Samuel moved into Josiah’s room so the baby room is already done. Now that the big, pressing things are done it’s just a matter of sitting and waiting for Tobias to get here. We’ve only got 15 more weeks to go!